On Finding True Love.


When looking for true love, most people look outwards.

Instead, try to look for love inwards, first.

How can you expect to find your soul mate, when your soul is in conflict with who you are as a person to the outside world?

Look at it from the other side: how can your soul mate find you, if it’s hard to tell what kind of person you truly are from within?

Only when the inner self and outer expression of the self are completely in line, you’ll have a good shot at finding someone who truly loves you for who you are.

You know when your inner self and outer expression of yourself are in line, when…

  1. You find comfort in being alone (it means you’re in good company).
  2. Your decisions are no longer based on what others will think of you.
  3. You’re no longer embarrassed of the present nor the past (the past made you who you are in the present, so not accepting your past means you’re not accepting your present).

Unfortunately, not many young people tick these three boxes and it might be one of the main reasons why so many marriages end up in divorce: people marry at a young age while they’re still figuring out what they’re made of.

To find true love, first figure out what things are important to you, work on the things that make you feel unhappy about yourself, improve your inner conversations, and make peace with the past.

When you do this, you’ll slowly find the confidence to express your true self and you’ll start to attract the people who love you for who you truly are.

One of those people might end up being the true love you were looking for and chances are small you’d have found this person by looking for love outwards.

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