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Don’t strive to be fearless.
Strive to be brave enough to face your fears until there’s little left of them.
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Comfort is poison to the ambitious. The comfort zone is a dead-zone. It’s where curiosity dies, it’s where growth dies… slowly. It sneaks up on you as you get older. If you ever find yourself...
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Discipline got a bad name. Most people look at the immediate outcome of discipline, the punishment that fell on their part. When you look at the motivation behind discipline, however, you’ll often...
True story. Cape Town, South Africa. 2018. ‘There are two kinds of people…’ Frank said. ‘On the one side there’s the Jellyfish, a beautiful creature, floating wherever the current of the ocean...
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Language is an interesting and tricky thing. As far as we know, it is one of the most advanced tools out there to express ourselves. Language is one of the main reasons the human race has progressed...
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When I started my first company selling sunglasses with two of my friends, I expected most of our friends and family to place an order right off the bat to support us. Only a handful did. I didn't...
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Feedback is essential on the road to success. Whatever you define as success, often the path that leads to this point is not clear-cut. It’s almost like you are walking towards a mountain top you can...
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