This article for goldfish:
- The ultimate happiness is achieved once you are completely content with who you are in the present.
- The past made you who you are right now. Therefore, wanting to change the past is a form of self hate.
- Instead of remunerating the past, accept it. Train yourself to become more content with the present and use the future to become the person who you will find it easier to be content with.
This article for humans:
When it comes to time, there is a past, a present and a future.
The ultimate happiness is looking at yourself in the present, being completely content with everything you see. This includes:
- Who you are as a person
- The work you do on a daily basis
- The relationships you have
- How healthy you are
- The achievements you’ve had
- The impact you have on other people’s lives
And for most people (I’d highly recommend to give this less weight):
- The way you look
- What other people think of you
- The stuff you own
Only when you are completely content with who you are in the present, it’s possible to make peace with the past, for it has shaped you to what you are now. The past might not have been perfect, but it has made you who you are, so in a sense wanting to change that imperfect past, would be wishing to change who you are right now. Therefore, wanting to change your past is a form of self-hate and a sign that you are not completely content with who you are in the present.
Now if there are areas in your life you are not completely content with, blaming and remunerating the past is a futile exercise. You can’t change it. What you can do, is to learn how to become content where you are now AND to use the future to grow towards the situation in which you’ll find it easier to be content with who you are.
You can become more content with where you are now, by practising gratitude. At the end of each day, write down three things you were grateful for that day. Every day you have to write down something different. By doing this you will train yourself to look for gratitude during your day, and find it in the smallest of things. After a while, you won’t need to write it down anymore – you’ll find something to be grateful for every hour of the day. You rewired your brain.
In a free world, you can use the future to grow towards a situation you’ll find it easier to be completely content with yourself. Envision who you want to become, who you want to be with – and make a plan to get you closer to that vision. Don’t let hurdles discourage you, they will come and they will go – focus on the plan.
Not God’s plan, not your parents plan, not your boss’s plan, but YOUR plan.
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