Everyone has a mold.
A shell that represents how the outside world sees you. Not who you are, or who you want to be from the inside… but how the world perceives you from the outside.
In order to grow it’s a necessity to break your mold, and keep breaking it until the person you want to be is aligned with how people perceive you. In this state you’d not only be your best self, you’d also show true authenticity.
The problem is… most environments don’t like change. Once the people around you figure out which mold you fit in, they’ll often try to keep you in that mold.
Because change is tiring.
They might say things like ‘act normal’ and ‘stop trying to be like X’. They might ridicule you and compare the person you are today with the person you were yesterday, convincing you to crawl back into the mold you belong in.
If this is how your environment reacts to change, there’s no easy way around it… it’s time to change your environment.
Move to an environment where preconceived notions of who you are don’t exist. A blank canvas on which you can paint a new picture of who you are. An environment where you can be whoever you want to be and nobody would notice anything different.
If you want to grow, you’ll have to shape your mold. The worst thing that could happen is to let your mold shape you.